6 Steps to Overcome Writer’s Block and Beat Resistance

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I’ve been working for several weeks on the next piece to the series on Collectible Game Design.  When I say “working,” what I usually mean is, staring for a minute at the article, worrying about how long it will take me to write, then deciding to do something else.

I think about all the more pressing things I have to do, then check my email, then go down whatever other rabbit hole gets my attention. I find this habit incredibly frustrating, and I know I’m not alone. What is going on here? How can we overcome it and accomplish our creative goals?

What is “Writer’s Block”?

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I don’t like the term writers block. Writer’s block implies that there is some external force to ourselves that stops us- we are literally “blocked” from fulfilling our creative vision. All we are facing is a set of feelings and sensations, dubbed by Robert Perseig as Resistance. I feel resistance to sitting in front of the page and doing the work to write. Resistance shows up whenever you try something new and uncomfortable. Resistance is the animal part of your brain that wants everything to be safe, comfortable, and predictable. Resistance is the enemy to creation and to realizing your dreams, whatever they may be. Resistance is the real power behind “writer’s block.” 

How do we Overcome Resistance?

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1. Pay Attention

 

Notice how resistance feels when it arises.  What sensations do you feel?

  • Chest tightening
  • Stomach sinking
  • Eyes darting
  • Fingers twitching
  • Palms sweating

We all have felt variations of this. The feelings are unpleasant and we seek to escape them.

It is why we spend hours on Facebook, YouTube, or the Huffington Post. We seek the easy and immediate relief that comes from these short term distractions.

2. Sit with the Feeling

 

Once you identify the feeling of resistance, pause. Don’t do anything, just sit with the sensation. Take a few deep breaths and just notice and identify the individual sensations as they arise. Don’t run from discomfort.

Now return to your task at hand. It helps me to set a visible timer nearby with a pre-set limit during which I won’t stray from my allotted task. If you feel blocked, start the timer at only 5 min. Such a small time is easy to commit to, and often once you start writing it is easier to continue than stop. Momentum is a powerful force.

Eventually expand your timer to 20 minutes or an hour. When you notice yourself drifting off to distraction, look at the timer then come back to your work.  Once the timer is up, give yourself permission to wander off for a while, then set another timer and come back to your work.

3. Have Creative Rituals

 

Do similar things to prime your brain to create. Set aside a special place, tool, and time for creative work. Make these as appealing as possible to draw your attention. A comfortable chair, clear desk, and nice pens can all impact your psyche when it comes to creative work. I find I am much more creative when I have a nice notebook and a bunch of colored pens to doodle and brainstorm with. Find tools you love to make the work more appealing.  If you are like me, trips to Staples start to feel like trips to the toy store when you were a kid.

4. Change Something

 

Sometimes disrupting the very rituals you’ve built up is the key to creative breakthroughs. Go for a walk outside. Find a new coffee shop and work there. Change tools (e.g. write with a pen instead of typing or vice versa). Create wacky new restrictions to prime your problem solving mind (e.g. every paragraph must begin with the letter e, your game characters all have no arms, etc.). Forcing the mind to make new connections can help break out of a rut.

5. Remove Distractions

 

Try to block out the many things that pull your attention.  The harder it is to get pulled by distraction, the easier it will be to catch yourself before you get lost.

  • Find a quiet place.
  • Put on headphones with music that inspires you (here is my work playlist).
  • Put your cellphone in airplane mode.
  • Disconnect from the internet (or use a service like rescuetime.com or freedom.to to block distracting websites).

6. Give Yourself Permission to Fail

 

Shitty first drafts. Crappy prototypes. Ugly Sketches. Quick and Dirty Code. These are the things that legends are made of. Get something done, and be proud that it sucks. Revising and refining is a lot easier once you get a chance to see what works and what doesn’t. Trying to make your first draft perfect is the best way to make sure that there will be no final draft.

The Struggle is Real

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We all face Resistance every day. Anytime you want to devote effort to bettering yourself or creating something, Resistance will be there. Don’t underestimate the power of resistance and don’t beat yourself up during days you lose the battle. But don’t give up either! Each day is a new chance to beat resistance and create something. I don’t know how I will fare against resistance tomorrow, but for today, I’ll call this article a win.

Morality for the Modern World

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Is it possible to be moral in a world without God?  Is a respect for different cultures incompatible with a belief in objective right and wrong? Can there be a universal truth in a world where we disagree about so much?
This article will explore how we might find common ground and shape a morality that is at once universal but still flexible enough to allow reasonable people to disagree.

 

Shared Perspective

 

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I believe that morality is best viewed through a series of contexts that I call lenses. Moral claims are only sensible when viewed through the correct philosophical lens. Though they are in some ways contradictory, all the lenses are true from a certain point of view.

Lets discuss some basic lenses that are useful for this discussion and illustrate them with the moral question:  Is capital punishment justified?

Universal

I talk about this lens a bit in my post on self discovery. From this perspective, we are all fundamentally connected. My life is the result of a myriad of events that happened before my birth. My actions have ripple effects that will last far into the future. What counts as “me” and “not me” is hard to pin down.
Distinctions between self/other, good/bad, and right/wrong don’t make sense in this lens. Moral ideas are all just two sides of the same coin.

This perspective is powerful but not very useful when negotiating the day-to-day concerns of life. We can’t make moral claims of right and wrong here, but we can find inspiration to be more moral.

We  can take refuge in this perspective when we face the more difficult parts of life like death, pain and loss.  We do this by no longer identifying with the limited concept of self that experiences those things. As we will see later, seeing the world from this perspective can help inform our morality in a profound way.

From this lens, capital punishment is never justified.  In fact, the very idea of punishment makes no sense.  Everyone is connected and so punishing you is punishing myself.  Crimes are only perpetrated by the self on the self.

Humanistic

Through this lens we recognize the identity of separate perspectives. I am one consciousness and you are another.

Once we accept the idea of different conscious entities, we can start making claims about how they ought behave and be treated. If we value conscious beings, we begin to approach a basic foundation of morality. Something along the lines of: All conscious beings are worthy of respect and ought have the opportunity to flourish.   In the humanistic lens we are different, but equal.

From this lens, capital punishment is hard to justify, because it implies a lack of respect for the life of a person.  At best, it is a practical question.  You could only justify capital punishment if it would help more people to flourish (i.e. via deterrance of future crimes) than if it did not exist.  Since there is little evidence to support capital punishment as a deterrant, it is near impossible to justify from a humanistic lens.

Personal

Through this lens we recognize our own perspective as unique, and our emotional landscape as one that is inherently individual. We love some people and things more than others and have the full range of hopes, fears, etc. that are a natural part of the human experience.

In this lens, we have different moral considerations like loyalty, honor, and family that don’t make sense in either of the other lenses. This is where life gains passion and vibrancy.  This is also where most “bad” or selfish motivations arise.

Capital punishment gains most of its justification from the personal lens.  If someone I loved was murdered, I would want the perpetrator to die.  If I’m honest with myself, I’d want to personally be involved in making sure the murderer suffered and then died.  I can think in a humanistic way about capital punishment when we are talking about it in the abstract, but when it is personal my feelings change dramatically.  I doubt I am alone on this.

The Foundations of Morality

 

Fundamentally, I think the project of trying to tie morality to something external to conscious experience is doomed to failure. I agree with David Hume that our sentiments are what create value and moral judgment. Just as chocolate cake is only tasty because people like to eat it, so too is murder only wrong because people don’t want to die.


It is hard for me to even conceive of another source from which morality could spring. An all-powerful God would still seem evil to me if she chose to cause pain and suffering for its own sake. 
The lack of an external grounding outside of sentiment does not mean, however, that we can’t make meaningful universal claims about morality. Not all sentiments are universal, but some are.  In other words, just because we can’t agree on everything doesn’t mean we can’t agree on some things.  In fact, we humans agree on quite a bit, though we only tend to focus on the areas of disagreement.

Universal Moral Truths

There are some truths that every rational person agrees with.

Bad Things- Nearly everyone believes that pain, death, and loss of ability are bad.
Good Things– Nearly everyone believes that pleasure, gaining ability, and the avoidance of bad things are good.

Many people object to the above claims, citing examples of cases where people will voluntarily hurt or kill themselves, or where they view pain as a good thing.  Every one of these examples of viewing a Bad Thing as Good (or vice-versa) involves a justification because of another good or bad thing (e.g. suicide to prevent pain, enduring pain to gain strength, etc.).

Sometimes, people will voluntarily seek out bad things, but this is only because they value other good things instead (including the avoidance of even worse Bad Things).  No one will choose a bad thing without justification.  The only valid justifications are good things.

In one sense, this seems trivial.  In another, it is profound.  There is so much we agree on when it comes to basic questions of good and bad and this gives us the hope of establishing a universal morality.  In fact, we only disagree on three fundamental questions.

How, Who, and What

We differ in moral judgments in only 3 ways:

  1. How we rate the good and bad things against each other (e.g. pain vs. death)
  2. Who we choose to include in our sphere of moral concern (e.g. animals, the unborn)
  3. What is true about the world (e.g. is there an afterlife, will a vaccine work)

In making moral choices we wrestle with those differences:
We may choose to endure the pain of an injection to prevent disease
We may choose to steal from others to help a loved one
We may choose to die so that we can gain eternal bliss in the afterlife
We may choose to torture and slaughter animals for food, clothing or product testing
We can have moral discussions about what is good and evil using the language above within the humanistic or personal lens. Within these lenses, we can condemn a sociopath who likes to torture babies. We can also make arguments that one course of action is better or worse than another based on the aggregate harm or good it does.

The Fuzzy Cloud Of Morality

 

This may not be the “robust” morality that many people look for, because it does not with precision always give a right or wrong answer. I believe that any universal morality must allow for reasonable people to disagree. It requires only that we have a common ground within which we can make moral claims. Thus, we can agree universally that torturing babies for fun is wrong, even while we might disagree about whether a mother has the right to abort her fetus.
Morality in this sense is like the particles in a cloud- there are some things clearly outside or inside its bounds, but there are many things along the edges for which it is unclear where they stand. For many moral questions, there is no single right answer- but that does not mean that all answers are equal.

We shape the boundaries of morality through discussion and persuasion and morality can evolve over time as the sentiments of humanity evolve.  And this, I believe, is where the Universal lens comes in handy. The more we can get people to see the world through the non-dualistic universal lens, the less attached they are to their personal perspective and the more they can be persuaded to adopt a humanistic morality. We are all confused and struggling in this world. It is much easier to have compassion for our fellow conscious beings when we realize that we are in fact all connected.

Toward a More Moral World

Within this paradigm, we can thus work to create a more moral world. How do we do this? Through skillful discussion and cultivating perspective.

Skillful Discussion

Understand that other people have fundamentally the same ideas of good and bad that you do. Try to use language that will appeal to those ideas, while being understanding of the Who, How, and What of disagreement. Recognize where you can have reasonable disagreement and try to persuade people rather than judge them as “evil” or “stupid.”

Cultivating Perspective

Take the time to experience universal connectedness. This can be done through meditation, music, and being in nature. Seek out experiences of awe and wonder. Experiences of awe are very much experiences of something far greater than ourselves, and this helps shake us out of the personal lens which can cause so much harm when used unskillfully. By connecting ourselves to something bigger than ourselves (or better yet to all things) we can cultivate a moral sentiment that is more compassionate and inclusive.

Practice and cultivate compassion. Help others. Play with puppies. Create art. Give lots of hugs. Spend time with loved ones. Try to remember that everyone out there is someone else’s loved one.

Surrounding ourselves with beauty, love, and wonder is a powerful way to make the world a better place.  Through these things, we can cultivate the sentiments that will fuel our moral growth.

Conclusion

 

I don’t view this perspective as an atheistic one. Whether there is a god or not, we need a morality that can stand on its own. By accepting uncertainty and the power of our sentiments, we gain solid ground upon which we can build a better world.

The Four Greatest Lessons Learned From Gaming

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You can learn so much from games. In fact, gaming is compelling to us precisely because it teaches us. Games provides a safe training ground to learn the skills we need in life without risking real danger.  After playing and designing games professionally for over 15 years, here are the four greatest lessons I’ve learned.

1. Take Responsibility

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Back when I played on the Magic: the Gathering Professional Tour, I would regularly play games with tens of thousands of dollars on the line. I regularly got “unlucky” with my draws and could regale my friends with stories of these “bad beats.”

Telling these stories felt good, but I spent most of my time focusing not on how luck turned against me, but on what I could learn from the experience. Where can I make different decisions to help the odds be more in my favor next time? I use my failures to focus in on how I can change my behavior and learn so that I will grow.

Things will always go wrong. You can’t control fate, but you can control your responses to it. Take responsibility for everything in your life. Take the attitude that you are the author of your fate, regardless of the circumstance. This empowers you to learn from every setback. Always ask yourself:  “What can I do better next time?”

2. Work Hard

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If you want to be good at games, you have to play a lot of games. The more practice I put into playing Magic, the better my results. In 1997 I won the US National Championships. I then became the first US National Champion in history to not win the World Team Championships. I was devastated.

It took me nearly 6 years to work my way back onto the US National team. Once I made it, I practiced non-stop to ensure that the title would come back to the US. I even flew out my teammates to ensure they practiced with me. In a dramatic final match, we were able to secure victory at the World Championships in 2003.

There is no substitute for hard work. Be willing to work hard if you care about a goal. If there is one universal difference between champions and everyone else, it is this.

3. Have Concrete, Measurable Goals.

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One of the beautiful things about playing games is that they provide concrete goals and feedback.  Achievements, levels, and point totals make progress easy to track. When we set goals in life, it is often very hard to measure our progress. Life goals such as “Be Successful” “Have a Great Relationship” and “Be Happy” are very difficult to quantify and the path to achieving these goals is often very obscure. How do I even know if I am on the right track?

In games, you know what your goal is, you know the rules, and you know whether or not you’ve achieved the goal. Furthermore, games regularly provide you with rewards and feedback that help drive you forward. Concrete, measurable goals make learning and improving much easier.

Use this knowledge to “gamify life” and make your goals and progress more concrete. Goals such as “Get in Shape” can be refined to “Have 15% bodyfat by December.” You can also add in rules and subgoals along with rewards (e.g. Exercise 20 minutes 3 times a week for the first month and get rewarded with a new game purchase). Using this basic system, you can use the fun of games to help accomplish real life goals.

4. Enjoy the Process

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Its cliche to say that its not about whether you win or lose but its how you play the game, but its true. Above, I told stories about some of my tournament victories and defeats, but honestly those are not the things that have stuck with me the most over the years.

What gives me the most joy are the friendships I built and the amazing experiences we had together. Winning and losing a game (even with big prizes on the line) rarely matters in the grand scheme of things. If you don’t stay focused on enjoying the process and the day to day of your life, none of your lofty goals matter. Having goals and wanting to win is great, but don’t lose sight of the fact that winning at games or your life goals isn’t worth anything if you can’t enjoy the experience and make meaningful connections along the way.

 

In Short: Own your Path, Work Hard, Work Smart and Enjoy the Ride.  Now get out there and play!

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Self Discovery

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out who I really am.  As a philosophy major in college, I engaged in esoteric discussions about the nature of identity, meaning, and reality.  Lately, my thinking has been on a far more personal and practical level.  How should I live my life?  What do I care about?  How can I take my knowledge and translate it into a life worth living?  Here is how I approach these questions.

The Nature of Self

We are born into this world with no sense of self and other. We craft our identity by making connections throughout our childhood and continue to develop and modify that sense as an adult. Identity is a notoriously difficult concept to pin down, in large part because it is a mental construct, a metaphor, that our brains create to give us an evolutionary advantage in protecting and propagating the “self.”

The majority of our sense of identity is formed before we have any conscious control over our lives. The paradigms we adopt through basic experimentation and reaction to the world (mostly with our parents) build up the self-construct. That self-construct then becomes the structure through which we develop conscious awareness. The more the conscious mind investigates the nature of identity and the self, the more flimsy the concept appears.  The more we see our concept of self as flawed, the more our entire perception of reality comes into question.

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This healthy skepticism is often the beginning of a personal spiritual quest. You can seek enlightenment through many means, but they all point to the same basic principle- a perception of the world as a unified whole (often described as god, “the fundamental ground of being” or “pure awareness”). Understanding this principle intellectually is a worthy challenge, but the true power of this realization comes from “feeling” its truth. When you realize that you are connected fundamentally to all other things and that the ego identity that you work so hard to protect is an illusion, all of the fears, insecurities, and confusions of life fade into the background. Finding this feeling is a personal journey, but tools such as meditation, prayer, and psychedelics can all help cultivate it.

The Practice of Self-Discovery

But once one has seen the spiritual mountaintop and returned, a new journey must begin for all who wish to still connect and be a part of the world. While it is wonderful to periodically return to the sense of oneness, we cannot live as a universally connected consciousness without a sense of self.

The sense of self is the thing that drives our social behavior and many of our survival instincts. Moreover, full immersion in the struggles of the self (love/loss, fear/relief,  success/failure, etc.) is the stuff that makes life vibrant and engaging. Unless you plan to live as a celibate monk on a mountaintop, you will still need a well-developed self to live a full life. So how do we reconcile the project of the self with the drive for enlightenment?

I believe this is fundamentally the process of self-discovery. Finding the value in the constructed-self involves both becoming more aware of its hidden contours and features, as well as letting it be molded and shaped by a fundamental awareness of the connectedness of things.

This approach allows us to take seriously the projects of life- self improvement, career, relationships, etc. while still being “in on the joke” about the fundamental ground of being (that the self is illusory). A good metaphor for this is watching a movie. On one level, you know that the movie isn’t real, but you can still lose yourself in the story to fully experience all the trials and tribulations of the hero.  Be the hero in the story of your life, but don’t forget that its just a story.

Mirrors for the Self

The self is the lens through which we view the world. Much like it is difficult to look at your own eyes without a mirror, it is also difficult to look at the self directly. We must find tools that can serve as mirrors to the self. Unfortunately, the only mirror that can reflect a “self” is a self in another form. This means that all mirrors we use are in some sense distorted (like looking at your reflection in a funhouse mirror). We must, therefore, look for patterns in the mirrors available to us to try and find the reality behind the images. Here are the four tools I’ve found most helpful for this purpose.

1. Other people (other selves)

 

Surround yourself with people who you admire and be open with them. See how they interact with you and encourage them to give you honest feedback on your character. This requires a willingness to be vulnerable and to listen to things you may not want to hear. It is far easier to see the flaws and unconscious traits in others than in yourself. Turn this feature of human nature to your advantage and let others help you investigate your own nature. Be open and compassionate when both giving and receiving feedback.

2. Journaling and Note Taking (our own self over time)

 

When immersed in the drama of day to day life, we typically perceive our reactions as being merely responses to the outside world. Writing down your thoughts and perceptions allows you to review them over time and notice patterns in your behavior. Any feeling or event that regularly occurs in your life is a reflection of your personal nature. Investigating those patterns will lead to a better understanding of the self.

3. Quiet, Sustained Attention (deeper levels of our current self)

 

We don’t often set aside time to just be with ourselves. Even when alone, we distract ourselves with television, video games, and social media. Taking the time to sit with your own feelings and emotions can yield enormous benefit. This doesn’t have to be a formal meditation process. Just take a few minutes whenever you can and adopt an attitude of compassionate curiosity. Pay attention to your own thoughts and feelings. When a strong thought or feeling arises, ask yourself “What is this about?” Be specific in your answer: look at physical sensations, past experiences that connect to the present feeling, etc. Most importantly, pay attention to the desire to run away or distract yourself from something unpleasant in your own mind. Instead of becoming lost in the movie of your life, try to think like a director or a writer while watching the film- what broader story does this event serve? Does this match the story I want to tell?

4. Study and Stories (finding patterns in the experience of many selves)

 

We live in an era where we have far more than ourselves and our friends to help us learn. Stories fundamentally illustrate the journey of the self (e.g. the Hero’s Journey) and can help us see our selves in the context of all humanity. Expose yourself to as many stories as possible (both fiction and non-fiction) to see how the lives of countless others can illuminate your own.

In addition to stories, research into human nature is incredibly valuable. Understanding the evolutionary drivers that condition our behavior and thinking can help us understand ourselves better. Knowing, for example, that people will obey authority figures even against their own best judgment  can help you to pause and look at where in your own life you cede your authority to others. Be curious about the things around you. Learning about others is learning about yourself.

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The process of self-discovery is a life-long one. There is no “done” to self discovery, just like there is no “done” to physical fitness.  It takes hard work and perseverance to reveal the layers of the self and to help it align with the fundamental ground of being. But that hard work yields the most powerful reward imaginable- a fulfilling and meaningful life.

6 Steps to Conquer Fear

 

The year is 2008 and I am debuting the World of Warcraft miniatures game at San Diego Comic Con to over 2000 impatient WoW fans. I’d never spoken in front of so many people before and I was terrified. I’d spent three years of my life building this game, and now was the moment of truth. My mind was racing. Why did I think this was a good idea? These are video game players – why would they play a miniatures game? They are going to hate me.  I should have practiced my presentation more. I should have had someone else do it. I shouldn’t even be here. Soon it was my time to speak and I had no choice but to begin…

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There is a voice inside all of us that tells us we aren’t good enough; that tells us we are a fraud; that says “Today would be a great day to stay hidden under the covers, or to lose ourselves in diversions like TV, alcohol, and social media.” I call this voice “The Fear.”

The fear thrives in dark places, in the corners of our mind where we don’t dare tread. It grows inside worries of possible futures and in reconstructed stories from our past. But the fear does not survive long in the scrutiny of our sustained attention. The fear can be conquered. Here is how.

1. Breathe- When dealing with any situation of stress or anxiety, take a few moments first to breathe in deeply. This will not  eliminate the fear or solve your problems, but it will relax your body and prepare your mind for a more direct confrontation with fear. Spend one minute breathing deeply and focusing on nothing but your breath and your present moment experience. There are plenty of studies to support the value of relaxed, deep breathing, and never is it more important then when facing the fear. During this time of deep breathing, try to focus on just the immediate physical sensations, not the thoughts behind them. Do you feel a tightness in your chest? Nausea in your stomach? A tension in your skull? Don’t try to suppress these symptoms, just observe them with a spirit of curiosity. Understand the specifics of what your body is interpreting as fear, and you will find they have less power over you as you breathe with each sensation.

2. Reframe- Remember that fear is there to help you. It doesn’t feel like it in the moment, but realize that fear is a response evolved to prevent you from entering into dangerous situations. This instinct served us well when we were in danger of being eaten by wild animals, but today that kind of threat is rare. Fear manifests in modern life primarily as a response to our need to be accepted. In ancient times, being deemed unacceptable by one’s tribe meant almost certain death (or at minimum an unpleasant life with little chance to procreate). Today, there are millions of tribes to join at the click of a button, but this fear still drives us. Understand that your fear is here to help you- it is pointing at something in your life that needs attention and focus. You can use that focus to improve and grow. As much as possible, be grateful for it.

3. Define- Take a close look at whatever you feel is causing the fear response, and define the worst case scenario that could come from this situation. If you do poorly at the company meeting, will you lose your job? If so, what will happen? How would you deal with this situation if it happened? Be as explicit as possible and write down all of your nightmare scenarios.  You will find that none of them are nearly so scary when they are written out. Even if they are still bad, your mind will almost immediately begin thinking of ways to mitigate these worst case scenarios – which were causing far more anxiety when vague and undefined.

4. Accept- Once you’ve written out the worst case scenarios for everything, pretend like they have all already happened. You’ve blown the interview. Lost the job. Been rejected. Visualize the events as in the past. Accept these nightmare consequences and realize that, in most cases, everything will still be ok. People are incredibly resilient to change and incredibly bad predictors of how happy or sad something will make them.  Even your nightmares can become blessings in disguise.

5. Take Action- Now that you’ve accepted the worst case scenario, start writing down some concrete things you can do to improve that scenario. Take the first step as soon as possible. Try to plan one step you can take each day, no matter how small, to help make things better or to cultivate better options for the future. The very fact that you are taking action will provide comfort, even before the reality of your situation improves.

6. Let go- If you have followed these steps, you have now defined your fear and are taking at least one concrete step everyday to face it. Beyond this, realize that you do not control the outcome of your life. As much as possible, let go of your attachment to the results of your actions. None of us can predict the future, and as much as we might like to believe otherwise, we have limited control over its outcome. We can, however, control how we react to the events of our lives and how we frame the situations we are in. Holding on to fear and anxiety about that which we can’t control does far more harm than good. Pay attention to those sensations when they arise and breathe with them until they dissipate. If necessary, come back to these steps and repeat them to prevent fear from controlling you.

Fear does not define you, but how you handle it will.

We all must face fear in our lives. It is the price we pay for exploring our world and pushing against the boundaries of our own limitations.  Fear will always be a part of any creative life. There is nothing shameful about it- quite the contrary. Be grateful that your life is one that triggers fear and know that you share this same feeling with billions of others. Fear does not define you, but how you handle it will.